20 Jun Stop thinking. start doing
You are 100% in control of your life.
People are not inherently lazy and uninterested.
If we were, we would never learn how to speak or how to walk.
We all start off life full of curiosity and with a desire to learn. Think about it – children don’t focus on others’ opinions when choosing what to do. They just act and have fun.
Over time, our survival instinct kicks in and tells us to play it safe; it tells us to avoid risk and stay forever comfortable.
It’s true – there’s no getting hurt in the comfort zone, but there’s also no excitement and very little reward located here.
I don’t want to look back on my life in 20 years, 10 years, or even 5 years and wish that I had done more when I had all the opportunity in the world.
I recently started following Mel Robbins 5 Second Rule. She wrote an entire book on this principle, but I’ll do my best to sum it up.
Mel Robbins explains how almost all of our decisions (95% to be exact) are made based on our emotions, not on logic.
She doesn’t mean we make decisions with “our hearts”; she means they come from our feelings at that time, right in that moment.
Our feelings in the moment are almost never beneficial in decision making for the long run.
For example, the fear of sharing a suggestion you think your coworkers may see as stupid, could keep a brilliant idea from ever leaving your thoughts.
It could be what’s keeping you from excelling in your career, growing your relationships, getting out of bed in the morning.
So what can you do about it?
The solution is simple. Become aware of your self-doubt and don’t let your temporary feelings dictate all your actions. Change is hard, but with the right tools and a desire, it is more than possible.
The 5 second tool is this: count down 5-4-3-2-1 and then act immediately. The counting interrupts the normal pattern of your behavior and creates a moment for immediate, conscious action.
Over time, 5 seconds at a time, you will continue to change. You will become more confident. You will become more adventurous. You will see yourself differently.
I don’t care how cheesy it sounds. There really is something to all these productivity tips. They truly change your life.
“Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.”
Mel Robbins, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage
In case anyone is wondering, I am taking my own advice.
I started volunteering, enrolled in a couple of courses online, started this blog, am going to a sushi making class, and will be attending two seminars in June/July.
I am at the early stages of my career, but I’ve started speaking up when I have an idea. I 5-4-3-2-1 myself out of bed every morning when the alarm goes off and in the evenings when it’s time to go to the gym.
Life is very exciting right now and have no doubt I will reap the benefits in the future even more than I am right now.
You too can create your own excitement and begin the transformation from dreamer to doer.
Act more and think a little less!